Current Category is: Dating | Select Another Category
Go Back To Category Homepage | View Category Sitemap
Free Information
Home   |   Search   |   Categories   |   Links   |   About Us   |   Contact Us


Internet Dating - Its Not For Geeks


Six months ago an old school friend and I were chatting over coffee, putting the world to rights as women do. She was bemoaning her lack of success in meeting the "right sort" of men. I asked her if she had tried using an internet dating service, and the look of horror that quickly appeared on her face gave the instant answer - of course not! Internet dating, she informed me, was for the sad, desperate, geeky or freaky.

Sadly this type of response is typical of people from all walks of life. Why sadly? Because those who instantly dismiss such services are missing out on a great opportunity.

The traditional argument for not using the internet to meet someone is that it is not natural. So what is natural? Where have people traditionally met their husbands, wives, lovers, and friends? Statistically, over the past 50 years the most common place for meeting ones spouse has been the workplace. This is hardly surprising given the ever increasing amounts of time most people are finding themselves working. Other common meeting places include bars, nightclubs, and parties, and some lucky few meet their lifetime partner early in life at college or university. However, the workplace remains number one for long term relationships. The reason for this is simple; lasting long term relationships are usually born out of robust friendships, and strong friendships form over time. Spend eight hours a day five days a week with the same people and you will get to know them very well. It is not uncommon in the modern world to spend more time with your colleagues than with your family, an unfortunate but true fact of life.

The increasing amounts of time we as a society are spending working is leaving less time to spend in social environments outside of the office, which means less opportunity to meet new people. So if you don't meet someone at work, where else is there? Enter the dating agency.

Dating agencies are not a new idea, they have been around a very long time. The internet has simply served as a new medium for bringing people together in a tried and tested way that agencies have used for years. However, it offers some unique advantages for those seeking a partner. Firstly it has lowered the cost of running a dating service, and that means agency dating has been opened up to a much wider audience. Secondly, it has broken down geographical barriers in a way that off-line agencies could never hope to. This is an important point because not everyone is looking for their future husband or wife on their doorstep. Indeed not everyone is looking for a future husband or wife; the explosion in internet dating has made it easier than ever to find new friends and correspondents across the globe.

These two points mean that some of the bigger agency sites now have in excess of three million members, and literally thousands of new members joining every day. With that many people, if you are serious about finding a partner, lover, or a friend, then the internet is simply too big a resource to ignore. And 'net dating is safe too; there is no need to exchange real names or even email addresses until you feel you know someone well enough. All the services allow you to block unwanted communication and so there is no fear of being pestered. Used sensibly, internet dating can be safer than almost any other way of meeting people.

The internet has revolutionised the way we work, shop, conduct our financial affairs, and entertain ourselves. To use it as a medium for meeting new people is a logical step in our fast changing world.

After that chat six months ago I convinced my friend to post a profile on a dating site, she didn't even have to pay anything to do so unless she wanted to start sending messages to other people. Now I never see her because she is spending all of her time with her new man. She didn't find him in five minutes like some of the sales pitches would like you to believe, but then six months ago she didn't expect to find him at all.

About The Author:
Sara Blackmoore is a relationship counselor and regular contributor to http://www.dating-webreview.com
She lives in London, England with her husband and two children.


MORE RESOURCES:

Divorced, But Dating Your Ex
Huffington Post (blog)
I asked if everything was okay and she told me that she had started dating her ex. While I was shocked, I knew not to judge her and just listened. She said that she got back together with him after going on some bad dates and feeling lonely.



The Atlantic Wire

Dating Survey Guy Speaks, Defends Himself Against Creepiness
The Atlantic Wire
Last week, the dating "mistake" that had the Internet cluck-clucking in joyful schadenfreude was the survey sent by a "24-year-old finance guy" to one of his dates. Deadspin called it "creepy." But now the survey creator, who gave us permission to use ...
Michael Stolar, Guy Who Sent Dating Survey, Speaks OutHuffington Post
Guy With Weird Dating Survey Defends His Data Collection MethodsDeadspin

all 3 news articles »


Sydney Morning Herald

Dating debacles ... take a walk on your wild side. Photo: Marco Del Grande
Sydney Morning Herald
And in the meantime, whether I revel in the spectacle, play in the jungle with friends or find a sweet spot by myself to get away from it all and reflect, the jungle isn't such a bad place to be. Dating debacles . . . take a walk on your wild side .
Dating debaclesThe Canberra Times

all 19 news articles »


Telegraph.co.uk

Shafilea Ahmed murder: parents 'killed daughter for dating boys'
Telegraph.co.uk
One included the line: “All they think about is honour. I was just like a normal kid. I just wanted to fit in. But my culture was different. But my family ignored.” Shafilea Ahmed murder : parents ' killed daughter for dating boys '
Final piece of the puzzle: sister says parents killed sibling for dating boys ...Sydney Morning Herald

all 474 news articles »


Kim Kardashian & Kanye West's Dating Timeline! (PHOTOS)
Celebuzz
Rumors about them dating go back several years, in fact. Kanye was featured in the January 2011 premiere episode of Kourtney and Kim Take New York and also made an appearance in Kim's video for “Jam (Turn It Up)” back in 2010.

and more »


Heart Evangelista admits dating Sid Lucero
ABS CBN News
MANILA, Philippines -- After breaking up with boyfriend Daniel Matsunaga, actress Heart Evangelista admitted that she is now dating co-star Sid Lucero. “I'm dating pero hanggang d'un lang. I go out with Sid but only on friendly dates,” Evangelista told ...

and more »


Dating Girl: Married co-workers should cool romance
Montreal Gazette
Dear Dating Girl: This past fall, a co-worker and I became involved in a passionate affair. We are both (unhappily) married, she with two young children, and I with a baby on the way. We fell in love with each other and planned to leave our spouses in ...

and more »


Zap2it.com (blog)

Raven-Symone: My sexuality is my business
CNN (blog)
Last week, a new report surfaced claiming that the 26-year-old is gay, and while she didn't address that report specifically, Symoné wrote on Twitter Friday that she's never talked about her dating life, and she doesn't plan to start now.
Raven-Symone answers outing story :: 'My sexual orientation is mine'EDGEOnTheNet
Raven-Symoné: My Sexual Orientation Is MineBET
Raven-Symone Addresses Lesbian RumorsiVillage Entertainment
Zap2it.com (blog)
all 106 news articles »


The Hot Hits

One Direction's Harry Styles Is Dating Sexy Cougar Emily Atack
Hollywood Life
Even though the pair has only recently started dating, it seems the attraction has been brewing, at least on Emily's part, for quite some time. In 2010, the blonde beauty tweeted, “Does Harry from One Direction HAVE to be 16?! Let's pretend he's 18 at ...
Harry Styles is dating Emily AtackSky News Australia
Is Harry Styles Dating Emily Atack?The Hot Hits
Harry Styles Dating Emily Atack: Is Her Harry Lookalike Evidence That She's ...Gather Celebs News Channel
Monsters and Critics.com -Entertainmentwise -NEWS.com.au
all 60 news articles »


Enstarz

Erin Andrews and Chace Crawford: Dating!
The Hollywood Gossip
The genetically gifted pair have been spotted out and about in New York several times now and have celebrity gossip sites buzzing about their status. Crawford been out on "a couple" dates with Andrews, Us reports. "They're getting to know each other," ...
Report: ESPN's Erin Andrews dating 'Gossip Girl' actor Chace CrawfordExaminer.com
Erin Andrews Dating Chace Crawford Story is FalseEnstarz
Erin Andrews dating Chace Crawford of 'Gossip Girl'?OnTheRedCarpet.com
International Business Times -Bleacher Report -Gather Celebs News Channel
all 81 news articles »

Google News

Home   |   Sitemap   |   Disclaimer   |   Privacy   |   Contact Us

© COPYRIGHT 2011 BRAINBELLY.COM